Monday, February 07, 2011

The End of "The Talk"

We're in the middle of our yearly series that we do with our junior high and high school students on relationships and sex, Sex. Dating. Usually during this series I take the opportunity to be having "The Talk" with their children.

But I'm not convinced that it's enough. Just having "The Talk" is not enough. It's time to begin having "Talks". "Talks" with our daughters about how a teenage boy thinks. "Talks" with our sons about how to treat and talk to teenage girls. "Talks" about putting parameters when it comes to dating and being alone with someone that we are "in like" with - notice I didn't say "love", that's because we need to have "Talks" about what love is, and isn't.

Dads, we need to have "Talks" with our sons about pornography. And frankly, Dads, we need to take a look at ourselves and see how our example is affecting our sons in our homes. It's time we set the example for our sons in how we treat a woman. We need to talk with our daughters about how beautiful they are. Telling them that every day. Working tirelessly for our daughters to understand how a man treats a woman, and anything less than that is unacceptable.

Moms, we need you to have "Talks" about how a woman desires to be treated, and how it is so different than MTV or about any other show they might be watching wants them to think how girls want to be treated. It's time for "Talks" with our daughters about setting a standard and never backing down from that.

It's time for "Talks". Lots and lots and lots of "Talks". One talk isn't going to do it, unless you package it in a weekend long "Talk" summit that's revisited bi-monthly. There should be no one fighting for their heart and their sexuality harder than us.